Group therapy for English-speaking participants in Barcelona

Would you like to work on your difficulties with other people that come from abroad?

Settling in a foreign city can be extremely challenging: new language, new culture, new customs and the huge effort to build up a new social network, sometimes from scratch.

These group sessions are aimed to work on your issues with other English-speaking participants that might be experiencing the same and that can really relate to what you are going through. It is specifically beneficial to those who tend to isolate, work remotely or have difficulties in their communication with others.

The group meets on a weekly basis in the evening in a centric office in Barcelona, starts in Fall and ends in June.

What will you gain from this group?

· Awareness of yourself and blind spots

· Insight on how you relate to others and why

· Communication skills and other ways of dealing with people in a safe environment

· Trust others

· Deep understanding of human nature and group dynamics

· Emotional intelligence

For any information on available vacant places, do not hesitate asking.

Risk Factors (while abroad) of a student

Beyond the known "culture shock" suffered by students from elsewhere, there are other risk factors that occur once settled which greatly aggravate their proper adjusting process and prevent them from having a good experience.

After months of preparation and expectations they finally arrive to Barcelona, ​​but nothing is what it seemed; sometimes it even rains and Spaniards speak so fast and with such a weird accent... Aspects which never crossed their mind, but can get used to by transiting through the common culture shock process.

However, there is another set of factors that tend to erode as a Malayan drop and that take their toll within two or three weeks. These are caused by their personality traits or exceptional situations they might go through.

So, if studying abroad seemed a simple thing, being able to turn it into a satisfying experience, ultimately depends on: previous factors and situational factors that take place while abroad. Among the most important:

  • Not belonging to a group of friends in the first month.
  • Not relating to any of the students in the program.
  • Feeling anxious, listless, unmotivated, not wanting to leave the room, feeling sad ... all of which with no apparent reason.
  • Feeling overwhelmed and extremely lost.
  • Feeling deeply anxious and unable to be alone or to not keep themselves constantly busy.
  • Having something serious happening to their loved ones while being in Barcelona.
  • Constant difficulty to concentrate in class and even needing to run away.

If any of these vital circumstances appear it is recommended to ask for help AS SOON AS POSSIBLE to a psychologist who is familiar with this type of issues. In most cases, if the intervention is at the beginning, there is a very high chance of being able to redirect the problem. Fortunately, human beings have a great capacity to adapt, and more when receiving support. Hence most students end up being able to go back to track and transform hell in a very good life experience.

Previous risk factors that increase the cultural shock

"Why do some foreign college students find it hard to adjust when they study abroad?"

While there is no magic recipe to prevent the struggle that a student who is temporarily in Barcelona will go through, ​​after talking with more than 450 foreign university students, I have observed that they share some previous common factors that hinder their adjustment to a foreign country . Among them:

  • In the past, they have had difficulty adapting to new contexts (eg. they've struggled to adjust to a new school, to a change of residence, transitioning from high school to college, etc.).
  • They have experienced anxiety when being exposed to changes.
  • It is the first time they are so far from their families and usually struggle when they do so.
  • In social situations they usually feel terribly anxious and can't avoid being continuously self-centred. Such anxiety tends to increase especially in new social situations.
  • They fear big cities.
  • They suffer anxiety when things are not under control.

How can we take these factors into account to help students adjust successfully?

While these previous factors do not act as a universal law, which always occurs in any context, they indicate past patterns that can be probability repeated while abroad. So if the universities that host foreign students, Study Abroad Programs, teachers and students themselves have them in mind, they may be alert, act more quickly and provide sooner the support they need to successfully adapt to this adventure of studying abroad.

The American nightmare: Studying Abroad

Beach, paella, bullfights, parties, alcohol ... are some of the siren songs that attract American students when choosing Barcelona as a destination to complete their studies.

They expect to have fun as ever, start from scratch, grow as a person and some even reinvent themselves. " Become a self made man" as the American dream.

However, they find a very different reality: they do not know the country, culture, language, future fellows ... So instead of the imagined paradise, they are confronted with highly stressful situations which produce uncertainty and above all, a lot of anxiety.

Some of the worries they share with me in my office are:

  • "I feel I do not fit. I thought I would make new friends here but I feel different from them. Some go out and drink too much. I wish I could also do other things, but I feel dragged by them otherwise I feel very lonely. "
  • "I've been here for three weeks and feel more and more nervous and anxious. I overthink and have trouble sleeping. "
  • "I doubt whether I can finish my studies here, sometimes I am looking forward to going back home, I miss my family and my friends."
  • "I'm reflecting on what to do with my life,I thought I had it all figured out but now I begin to doubt it."
  • "I had wised to come to Barcelona for a long time. Before coming, I did not feel totally accomplished and thought that by coming to Barcelona I would feel better, but I feel much worse. "

The solution to all these concerns depends on each case and person.

The first step is to always check the personal and family expectations associated with the studying abroad experience. Once they are detected we can take off some unreal excess load ("become a great person in three months", "become what I never was before," "leave my problems behind ") and adjust them to the external and internal current reality.

Once the expectations are adjusted , the future begins to look in a different colour, and you will feel more capable and start to relate others in a more adapted way.

Although it seems unbelievable, these doubts are an opportunity to develop self-awareness, strengthen self-confidence and to get off this experience with an helpful luggage.